Everyone who chooses to get divorced does so for their own reasons, and all of them are valid. Nobody knows your boundaries better than you, and if your spouse crosses those boundaries, it’s reasonable to want to end the marriage. One of the most painful and emotionally devastating causes of divorce is infidelity. Finding out your partner has cheated on you can be crushing. An experienced Omaha divorce lawyer can help you determine an effective course of action.
It’s understandable to feel a range of differing emotions when you learn of your partner’s infidelity. You may even start to feel completely checked out emotionally, and that’s okay. Nobody expects you to heal from this overnight. It’ll take time, work, and closure to fully move on from this. Pursuing a divorce is one way to get what you need. The divorce process may take time, depending on your specific case, but once it’s over, you can really focus on healing.
Hire the Right Divorce Lawyer
When you catch your partner cheating and pursue a divorce, there’s a strong chance that your divorce will be contentious. Filing for divorce can be seen by your partner as a loss of control, and they may try to make things difficult for you purely out of spite. By hiring the right divorce lawyer, you aren’t letting that happen. At Stange Law Firm, we can help you make a strong case. Our team has offices across the country, and we’ve helped countless clients with their own cases.
It may be important for you to understand the marriage and divorce rates in Nebraska. It can help you feel less alone in your decision, knowing there are others dealing with divorces of their own. According to data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the divorce rate in Nebraska is quite low at just 2.6 per 1,000 residents as of 2023. The marriage rate, however, is quite high at nearly 52%, according to data gathered by World Population Review.
Moving on from infidelity may not be easy. It can create a fundamental distrust of people that can be difficult to heal, especially in future relationships. To help facilitate healing, you might want to consider reaching out to a local infidelity support group like Infidelity Survivors or The Betrayal Trauma Remedy for Women. Having someone to talk to about your fears and concerns following infidelity can be helpful not just for your divorce, but for your own healing.
Coping With Infidelity in a Divorce
The most important thing to realize during this trying time is that there are healthy coping mechanisms and unhealthy coping mechanisms. Shutting yourself off from your friends and family or focusing on your hatred of your spouse is not going to do you any favors emotionally. You should prioritize healthy methods of healing and do what you can to move forward without dwelling too much on the past. These are some healthy ways of coping with infidelity:
- Above all, you should take comfort in a strong support system. You may have people around you who want to see you move forward and can offer you support. Friends, family, neighbors, work colleagues, and more may be ready to provide you with the warmth you need to keep going. You might want to take this time to reconnect with old friends or extended family you may have lost touch with during your marriage.
- One of the most important things you might want to try to achieve during all this is closure. You should consider confronting your cheating ex if you haven’t done so already. Be sure to communicate your feelings effectively.
Let your partner know how this has made you feel. They might be totally unapologetic, but at least you tried. If closure isn’t important to you, never seeing your ex again may be enough for you to move on.
FAQs
Q: Is My Spouse’s Infidelity My Fault?
A: No, your spouse’s infidelity is not your fault. People who decide to cheat have their own reasons for doing so, and your spouse may be the only one who knows what those reasons are. They may try to convince you that you were working too much or not responsive to their needs, but in the end, infidelity is a choice. It’s up to you to decide if you are willing to move past it and work on your marriage or if a divorce is your next step.
Q: Can a Marriage Survive Infidelity?
A: Yes, it’s possible for a marriage to survive infidelity. It happens all the time. However, it takes a considerable amount of work on both sides. The cheating spouse has to be fiercely apologetic and willing to take accountability for what they did. The betrayed spouse has to be willing to forgive and move forward. If both spouses aren’t willing to do the work, there may be nothing left to salvage.
Q: Will a Prenuptial Agreement Hold Up in Nebraska?
A: Yes, a prenuptial agreement will hold up in Nebraska, provided that the prenup in question meets the necessary legal requirements. It must be in writing, signed by both parties without duress, and include a complete list of both parties’ assets and liabilities. If you have a prenup in place that includes an infidelity clause, it may be your opportunity to prevent your spouse from getting any of your assets.
Q: Should I Hire a Lawyer?
A: If you are choosing to move forward with a divorce, you should absolutely hire a lawyer. The last thing you want is for your cheating spouse to take advantage of you in court and walk away with more than they deserve. Your lawyer can help you put together a strong case and possibly use the infidelity to affect asset division or custody arrangements. If your spouse used marital funds to pay for an affair, that could really hurt their case.
Reach Out Today
At Stange Law Firm, we can help you put together a solid case for your divorce and ensure that your interests are protected. Contact us to speak with a member of our team about your case.